Reviews

Audrey was instrumental in mending my relationship with my twin sister. She is compassionate and lovingly impartial which is one of the reasons I believe the process was so successful. Audrey is wonderful and we loved working with her. I can’t recommend her enough.

Josee B.

Darling Audrey

You were a mother sent to me to guide me on my life’s journey. Happy Mothers Day!

You have said many things I live by to this day.

I cherish you, I cherish your words and feel blessed your beautiful light touched on my life.

I hope all is well with you. Maybe we need a cuppa and a catch up? Always interesting and never dull!

My love to you. Thought this picture might make you smile. Christmas 2022. This is Chris. I met him organising his mums funeral at my work. Strange how life brings people together… You said five years after separation I would be ready to meet someone. You we’re right! He was sent my way.. lucky me!

Have a super day with your family

All my love

Lisa xx

I found Audrey’s sessions to be very helpful in a practical way, she refereed so we could both have an opportunity to speak uninterrupted and reiterated messages that were not being heard. The best advice she gave me is to focus on having fun with my sister, to make a point of making fun plans with her rather than defaulting as a space for emotional support. She also suggested rather than trying to fix her problems, I just offer a cup of tea and a hug. Thank you Audrey for this simple but profound help!

Lisa F.

My twin sister and I were having relationship issues after she returned to the UK having lived in the states. We’d been in separate counties for five years and were struggling to adjust to this new dynamic. We were repeating old patterns of behaviour and having frequent and intense fights that were fuelled by lifelong resentments. When we were younger our sister and close friends acted as mediators however, we were 30 and felt it was time to change so sought help from Audrey.

I would encourage all twins that are having a trickly time to meet with Audrey as the intensity of emotions that can propel twins apart is extremely painful. With her support and expertise we have been able to express our points of view, understand one another and move on from the past. Although we still get into disagreements as all twins do, our relationship is now functional and loving. Most importantly Audrey has given us an understanding of the special bond we have together as twins that is so important in both of our lives.

Leah R.

We have 39 year old twin daughters who were ‘undiagnosed’ until birth.  At that time we already had a 2-year old daughter.

The relationship with ‘the twins’ – I dislike calling them by that name – was perfectly normal until their teenage years.  They became aggressive; would not adhere to normal family rules like having a time to come home in the evening; hanging around with the ‘wrong crowd’ and resenting their Father more than their Mother.

In an effort to try and sort the problems out we enlisted the help of a Social Worker – this further enraged them and it was clear that they thought of the family as 2 + 3, i.e. themselves against their parents and elder sibling.

At that time we sought the help of an eminent authority in Twin behaviour and had an appointment to see her in London – ‘the twins’ refused to go – said that ‘they were not mad’ but we were.

The situation calmed down when they got jobs and moved out of the family home and got on with their lives.

Looking back I think we have had a fragile relationship with both of them spanning almost 25 years.

Events got even worse when one of ‘the twins’ emigrated with her family to Australia about 8 years ago.  Since then even ‘the twins’ relationship with each other has broken down.  The relationship between the remaining twin and her elder sibling is now non-existent – they say they hate each other.

This has had an enormous impact on us, their parents.  We have a situation where because the remaining ‘twin’ and her elder sibling cannot bare to be in the same room together – we are unable to have family get togethers as normal families.

We have talked for hours upon hours pondering as to why this could be.  The strain at times has been unbearable.

We decided, as a last resort, to contact TAMBA to see if, for any reason, their behaviour might somehow be ‘twin related’.

We were referred to AUDREY SANDBANK and we travelled down to Surrey to meet her and to have a counselling session.  Audrey has both Professional and Personal knowledge of twins (of a similar age to ours) – which for us made our decision to see her more plausible.

The time we spent with Audrey was, to say the least, enlightening. After listening to our ‘history’ Audrey was able to identify many ‘traits’ in our daughters.  She explained how and why they ‘ticked’; how and why their behaviour has evolved as it has. Through speaking with Audrey my husband and I both realised that we sometimes had different views of our situation.

Audrey was able to reassure us that such  behaviour of ‘the twins’ was not uncommon – especially those with an elder sibling.  She explained how our daughters thought and behaved which as Parents we thought we knew – but now understand have been powerless to understand or even change.

Now, a few months after speaking with Audrey  – we are re-building a better relationship with ‘the twin’ in this country.  We have been following Audrey’s advice – and we are moving forward, little by little.

In conclusion, we would advise anyone to seek Professional help.  Whenever we feel we have a problem – we mentally refer to Audrey’s words and advice.  The advice she has given has been invaluable and we only wish we had contacted her many years ago.

The T’s – Ashby de la Zouch

We are a set of 32 year old identical twin males. The joint youngest of 6 kids, we endured trauma from an alcoholic parent at a young age. Despite being as close as we thought we were, our 20s brought in a slew of mental health issues with each other that went unchecked for years. In a make or break moment, we decided we should seek twin therapy.

And we are so glad we did. Audrey is an expert on all things twin and helped us learn more about being twins ourselves. Every identical twin should seek counselling with each other – and there’s no one safer to do this with than Audrey. She helped us find peace and learning in a way we cannot describe. To have even considered this positive outcome when we were in our darkest places felt impossible, but it’s not. It was all possible.

Please, if you’re reading this and are a twin, do not hesitate to contact Audrey. But be prepared to put the work in and know that it’s worth it in the end – because you get to function harmoniously with your twin.

We’ve finished our main bout of sessions with Audrey – but will definitely be topping up in the future if things start to feel tough again.

Michael and Paul

I found Audrey invaluable in my self-development journey. The progress I have made in just a few months has been life changing. Audrey offers practical and non-intimidating therapy sessions. She is patient and understanding if you are struggling with anxiety or family issues, sppecifically twin related. I would highly recommend you reach out to Audrey.

Eliza F.

I am incredibly grateful for Audrey’s support. I was facing new challenges living with my twin in my mid twenties while tackling many life changes. This is something I was finding extremely difficult. I was also finding a lot of discomfort in our similarities and a desire to be my own person especially at this age. Additionally, I have struggled with a lot of guilt about how my previous actions may have affected my sister, my negative thoughts and unhealthy comparisons.

Audrey has been a great help in helping me understand that my experiences are not uncommon for a twin. She has helped me focus on the differences rather than the similarities and assuring me that my thoughts don’t make me a bad person. I still have lots of work to do but I’m glad to have Audrey’s support. I am now more aware of my unhealthy thoughts and comparisons but I know that this comes from feeling unfulfilled in certain areas of my life. I am working to focus on what makes me happier and a better person.

Very rarely can people relate and understand the struggles of being a twin and I feel lucky to have the opportunity to speak with Audrey.

Toyin