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Musings on my twin practice

When working with one of twins rather than a pair, I am aware that in the transference I represent the absent twin. But I have also become aware that I may be seen as the absent mother as well. This can be confusing as it is necessary to separate the two in order to work [...]

2018-03-25T15:49:16+00:00March 25th, 2018|

Negative Attention

Children like to attract their parent's attention. If they find that a particular piece of behavior persuades their parents to stop doing whatever they are doing and concentrate on them, then they will keep repeating it. It doesn't seem to matter whether the behavior is positive or negative. There are degrees of negative attention from [...]

2018-03-10T14:18:23+00:00March 10th, 2018|

The Couple Effect

Today I am putting on my twin therapist's hat and would like to talk about THE COUPLE EFFECT which effects so many of my clients young and old. Being part of a twin group affects twins in a variety of ways. The first way is through language. Not only does it effect the rate of [...]

2018-02-10T13:41:06+00:00February 10th, 2018|

Agreeing about limits, limits anxiety!

There are many reasons why a child may be anxious and I list several of them in my APP ANXIETY ISLAND, but there can also be another reason - parents who disagree on many things and also about how to parent.  Good cop/bad cop may work at the police station, but children find this a good way [...]

2018-02-03T10:42:28+00:00February 3rd, 2018|

parents disagreeing

I have talked about how parents disagreeing can make children anxious.  Often parents don't know why they react to their partner in a certain way.  Maybe there was someone in your childhood who provoked a similar reaction?  Are you getting your partner mixed up with them or think that they are just like them?  Was [...]

2017-11-18T14:23:10+00:00November 18th, 2017|

separation and divorce

Children become very anxious when their parents are going through separation or divorce and though some of the symptoms are addressed within my app, see main page, but as well as a lot of other information there are two books out there for younger children.  I can highly recommend 'THE DINOSAUR'S DIVORCE'  by Laurie Krasney Brown [...]

2017-11-16T19:06:30+00:00November 16th, 2017|

Selective Mutism

Selective Mutism is a surprisingly hard behavior for parents to deal with and is particularly hard for the child, usually under 10, for whom it becomes part of who they are.   At school  the child  may have only one friend to whom they speak, or more often whispers.  The child maintains a silence in front of the rest of [...]

2017-11-12T16:13:47+00:00November 12th, 2017|

Welcome to the new blog section

Welcome to the new blog section of my website. I recommend ''I'LL KNOW WHAT TO DO'' by BONNIE MARK and AVIVA LAYTON which is specifically aimed at dealing with natural disasters like floods and earthquakes.  But skills developed in learning coping strategies and practical issues could be transferable to any anxiety provoking situations.

2017-11-02T15:27:43+00:00October 31st, 2017|

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